You can't move forward until you break that chain
The person who
hurt you--who raped you or killed your family--is also here. If you are still
angry at that person, if you haven't been able to forgive, you are chained to
him. Everyone could feel the emotional truth of that: When someone offends you
and you haven't let go, every time you see him, you grow breathless or your
heart skips a beat. If the trauma was really severe, you dream of revenge.
Above you, is the Mountain of Peace and Prosperity where we all want to go. But
when you try to climb that hill, the person you haven't forgiven weighs you
down. It's a personal choice whether or not to let go. No one can tell you how
long to mourn a death or rage over a rape. But you can't move forward until you
break that chain.”
Leymah Gbowee, Mighty Be Our Powers: How Sisterhood, Prayer, and Sex Changed a Nation at War
